Comments on: WHAT TO DO WITH WEDDING RINGS

By: Trisha

Trisha — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 21:48:22 +0000

My husband died Feb. 2010. He was military. I now have his ring and wear it with my rings. As a young widow…many feel I should be seeking out another….but I am not comfortable doing this. The contract is still in forca and he still has my back.

By: Helen

Helen — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:01:50 +0000

MY husband died of a heart attack the moring of Feb 19 2010 i didnt even get to tell him goodby or that i loved him i found him on the floor when i got up to go to work we hadnt been married for 9 months yet today would have been his 60th birthday what should a widow ring be?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 04:48:30 +0000

My husband died in a tragic car accident. Let me first say that I am 25 yrs. old. When he died, I was 9 weeks pregnant. It will be 9 mos. this month since he’s been gone. As a young widow, I know that God has a plan for me whatever that may be. There is not a day that goes by when I don’t think of him or miss him terribly. We have a beautiful baby girl that looks like him. Before he was buried, I removed his wedding ring and wear it around my neck on a chain. I love my wedding set but am feeling like it’s time for me to either take them off or move them to my right hand. I love what Diane said about the “widow ring” and I feel exactly the way she does about her wedding ring not telling her how her life is now but not wanting to feel single. I’m going to keep thinking about this. Thanks to all of you for your comments. God Bless. There is a purpose under everything.

By: Kay

Kay — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 05:39:35 +0000

My husband passed away in 12/07 after three years from a car accident. I loved my wedding ring with the brushed gold and diamond. He never wore his ring since his job required a lot of outside work with tools. After a year I decided it was time to take our rings into a jeweler. I decided to have the rings made into a necklace with the diamond in the middle and two sapphires on each side. I love sapphires and it seemed fitting to do this. The necklace turned out beautiful in its simplicity. I will pass the necklace on to his side of the family once I am gone since we have no children. When I visit his gravesite I wear the necklace. It has helped me move on. It has taken me awhile to adjust to being single. I felt widowed and nothing beyond that. I am also dating now and it seemed the appropriate thing to do for me. I “never” thought I would date again at this age. Life is full of surprises. You have to do what you feel is right for you.

By: Dorothy

Dorothy — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:15:36 +0000

I was hoping this would give me some answers. We were married 35 years when my husband passed in April of 07. Our rings were remade around our 28th aniversary. The rings symbolize so much and it is still hard for me to move my ring. Having recently dated someone I am interested in, I was ready to move the ring to my right hand but of course, it does not fit. I am still at odds with what to do.

By: garnet

garnet — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:03:02 +0000

i miss him, he died from cancer, and i took the ring off 2 months after, to help me to move on. it is one year now and i want to put them back on. i am npot interested in another and want to be still his, as i told him nobody else matters. as this holds true even today. so i asked my kids what they thought and they think i shouldn’t. but the indent is leabving my finger and so will his promise. i really miss his love and support.

By: Pat

Pat — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 12:01:53 +0000

Thank you. I did not know what other widows have done and found this informative. There apparently appears no set tradition. What was good for my husband and me is that he had lost several wedding bands, fortunately, found the original! The last one we had replaced we both liked and had 3 crosses in the center. That ring I had them place on his left hand and I am wearing my ring on my right hand, I call it not my widow’s ring, but my “eternity” ring.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 06:27:42 +0000

My husband had never taken his ring off while he was alive and I wasn’t going to take it away from him. The 1st time I checked off the box [ ] widow - I realized that our marriage was no more and felt that the rings on my finger were not telling my life as it was now. I didn’t want to take them off - because I was not single either (at least in my heart). I felt that I needed to “make it right”, and began a search for a widow’s ring. I wanted a 3rd ring, a mourning ring, black, and symbolic of our love. The search was frustrating and expensive.
I even learned to make wire sculpted rings. I found a source to “special order” my black widow rings. I found that a hematite ring is very comforting. The thin black bands fit comfortable next to the wedding rings, a solitaire can be worn when you take off your rings and your finger does not feel bare. The collection includes a black 6mm band with the serenity prayer inside the band. Now I wear an Eternity of Tears… a wide band with pear shaped stones side by side.
I think that removing the rings should be a matter of heart not time. And each one of us should do what feels right - I have found my solace and want to offer the comfort that I found to other grieving women.
Diane

By: Leslie

Leslie — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 18:53:45 +0000

My husband passed away in November 2007, from a massive heart attack. He had the attack on Nov. 2, and passed away on Nov. 5, 2007 so I had him for 3 days in the hospital. I have and will continue to thank God that he came to enough one night and was fully conscious for him to hear me tell him I loved him and for him to nod and try to speak but he couldn’t as he had a vent in his mouth, but at least I got to tell him and watch him try to tell me he loved me, which is much more than alot of widows are allowed due to sudden deaths. But his right hand and wrist had been amputated, due to vascular disease and he wasn’t allowed to wear anything on his left hand or wrist so he kept his ring on a chain around his neck. Of course the day he went into the hospital I took his ring off the chain and placed it over my own matching wedding band and then put my engagement ring on so it kept his bigger band in place on my hand. I haven’t taken them off since even though it is approaching a year since he’s been gone. Neither one of us wanted this to happen, and I don’t “feel ” single even though in reality I know I am. My mum continues to wear her rings even though its been 8 years since my dad passed away. I have no thoughts of ever taking my rings off…just doesn’t seem the right thing to do for me, so they will stay where they are.
Leslie

By: Marla

Marla — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 18:55:27 +0000

My husband passed away suddenly from cardiac arrest last Dec. (2007). I did not even think about his ring until the funeral director asked if I wanted his ring ~~ just before we closed his casket for the final time. Neither one of us could get the ring over his knuckle, so he still has it on. I did want it to wear on a necklace, but it wasn’t meant to be, evidently.
As far as my wedding rings, I still wear them on my left hand where I have worn a wedding band and engagement ring since we married 39 yrs ago. My hand is just too bare w/o them.
I have been thinking about having the engagement diamond and the diamonds in my band reset or remade into another ring.
Some other widows I know have had a widow ring made to wear on their left hand. Usually it has black diamonds, and some seem to use some of their diamonds from wedding rings with it. I had never heard of a widow’s ring. So, not so sure about them.
Anyway, right now, mine are still where they have been for years.