Comments on: Tragic differences http://widow-speak.org/blog/2007/04/22/tragic-differences/ Fri, 18 May 2012 15:07:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: annmarie http://widow-speak.org/blog/2007/04/22/tragic-differences/#comment-2272 annmarie Mon, 23 Apr 2007 06:30:47 +0000 http://widow-speak.org/blog/2007/04/22/tragic-differences/#comment-2272 Dear Amanda, A very wise friend of mine said in response to my question, "What if he has a disease?" "You can handle it AnnMarie." A week later, Peter was dead. As I respond to you, it is nearly ten years since that question and answer. Patricia is the same friend who said to me that the difference between being widowed and divorced is that at least your babies aren't waiting on the porch for their daddy to show up, when he doesn't. Yes, it's true my babies didn't expect their daddy to show up. Doesn't mean we don't yearn for him to appear though. It is a collective yearning that hasn't gone away. We still want the mythological papa to appear. Someone to fill his shoes. Would be so nice to have another, who is interested and earnest. So I add to your list of tragic differences: divorced: he says he is going to show up and doesn't widowed? if he could show up, you know he would Dear Amanda,
A very wise friend of mine said in response to my question, “What if he has a disease?”
“You can handle it AnnMarie.”
A week later, Peter was dead.
As I respond to you, it is nearly ten years since that question and answer.
Patricia is the same friend who said to me that the difference between being widowed and divorced is that at least your babies aren’t waiting on the porch for their daddy to show up, when he doesn’t.
Yes, it’s true my babies didn’t expect their daddy to show up. Doesn’t mean we don’t yearn for him to appear though. It is a collective yearning that hasn’t gone away. We still want the mythological papa to appear. Someone to fill his shoes. Would be so nice to have another, who is interested and earnest.
So I add to your list of tragic differences:

divorced: he says he is going to show up and doesn’t
widowed? if he could show up, you know he would

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